I'm on the fence about blogging my dating journey. There's a definite level of privacy to be maintained around the subject, but there are aspects to it that still encompass life experiences worth talking about. I learned a tremendous lesson over the weekend, that men are to be taken with the greatest of caution as their likes and dislikes can change drastically within a few moments. I met what appeared to be a wonderful, wholehearted caring man over the weekend. We chatted non-stop for nearly three days and even reached the point of arranging a date. On the fourth, he was gone. Just like that. Not a single word was said before his departure. I felt entirely confused by his actions..and then, I woke up. The reality is, anyone can change their mind whenever they want. A good friend of mine reminded me of this over the phone a few days ago. Her words spoke loudly and clearly to me when I heard them, but I'd not the appropriate situation to relate them to, at least not at that moment. Now, I get it. Completely.
If I'm going to absorb the multi-faceted complexities of dating, I need to be willing to take the bad with the good. Plain and simple. The teflon coat might have to take a little bit of tweaking to do this, but it's an absolute must if I'm going to survive the up and down nature of dating!
I've also to shed quick judgement as it's prone to error. I truly believe it takes at least two dates to get to know someone. Photos are useless. The disadvantage to online dating is that the first and primary item on the menu is the photo. Well, photos only tell a quarter of the story..rarely do photos represent the "real us".
Written self descriptions are a disaster! I could devote an entire post to them..bottom line, if I see another "love baseball, hockey, football, basketball", "love to travel and try new adventures", "fun guy looking for girl who wants to have fun" and my favorite, "looking for that special woman", I might just have to give the men a lesson in creative writing. I get that men are basic, but a word to the wise, women want more than just what's on the surface! Tell us a little bit more about yourself and what you've to offer us!
So, that's my rant..and can say that I'm super excited because I've my first date on Friday?! Beyond that, I'm not going to say anything, though I will profess that I'm looking forward to it and can't wait to meet the person! He seems like a really great guy! :)
That about does it for today - if you've any advice about online dating, send it my way! I'd love to hear your story if you've one to share!
~ CM ~
